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Nina Collins
November 1, 2022

10 Must-Read Books For Better, Mind-Blowing Sex

A Booklist for the Sexually Curious, Adventurous, and Anyone In-Between!

If you like to masturbate and want to get better at it, this book is for you.

Feeling inspired by a recent Sex Chat on Revel I put together a list of my favorite books on sex, sexuality, and relationships! Without further ado:

Hot & Unbothered

Sex Educator & Therapist  Yana Tallon-Hicks gives us explicit permission to talk about, think about, and achieve the pleasure we desire without shame or secrecy, no matter our sexual identity or gender. She begins by shattering myths about “good sex,” which is seamless, satisfying—and nearly non-existent. A playful and frank look at how to unpack our  own hang-ups and overcome barriers such as shame, secrecy, misinformation, low self-esteem, lack-of-motivation, and unhealthy relationship patterns.

Come As You Are 

A now-classic on the science of female sexuality.  Emily Nagowski, a sex educator and former researcher at the Kinsey Institute, explores the ways we experience pleasure in a nonjudgmental look at sexual desire, backed by scientific research and data. 

Tell Me What You Want

An unprecedented look at sexual fantasy and how to talk about it based on the most comprehensive, scientific survey ever undertaken. This book will help you better understand your own sexual desires and how to attain them within your relationships, how to appreciate why the desires of your partners may be so incredibly different, and most importantly how to allow your fantasy to become a reality!

The Ethical Slut

The bible for ethical non-monogamy, this book covers pretty much everything you need to know about how to embark on and manage relationships with an extended network of sexual partners on fair and equal footing. Most of the best advice is universal, like learning to get honest with yourself, communicating clearly with partners, and maintaining healthy self-esteem.

Becoming Cliterate

A practical and illuminating book about how to close the orgasm gap. The way we’ve traditionally been taught women orgasm—via penetration—is wrong: 95 percent of women do not orgasm from intercourse alone. And 78% of women’s orgasm problems are caused by not enough or not the right kind of clitoral stimulation. A book about equally valuing clitoral stimulation by sex therapist and psychology professor Laurie Mintz.

Mating in Captivity

What does it take to keep the flame burning? Couples and sexuality therapist Esther Perel weighs in with her provocative insight on the possibility of a better sex life. We think this is her best book, am ust-read to understanding lust in the context of long term relationships.


A book that will challenge everything you thought you knew about female monogamy and infidelity. Blending accessible social science and interviews with sex researchers, anthropologists, and real women from all walks of life, Wednesday Martin looks at data suggesting women may struggle more than men with sexual exclusivity and unpacks the revolutionary idea that females of many species evolved to be "promiscuous." 

Better Sex Through Mindfulness

Psychologist and sex researcher Lori A. Brotto takes a compassionate look at the different reasons we might suffer from various sexual difficulties. The most common yet somehow least talked about among them: a lack of interest. Brotto offers tools, in the form of easy exercises, for increasing desire and pleasure.

Sex For One

If you like to masturbate and want to get better at it, this book is for you. An unapologetic and straightforward guide to celebrating and improving sex for one. By the legendary Betty Dodson

Tongue Tied

If you’re interested in experimenting with kink, this book about communicating and negotiating sexual desires is a must. Intimacy educator and coach Stella Harris covers overcoming fears and initiating conversations as well as addressing frustrations and understanding what’s good about hearing “no.”

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